On the 4th of November Synergy organises a workshop in collaborationb with Radboud University's Career Service. The theme of this workshop was 'I don't know what I want". In this article I will reflect on the workshop!
Exercise
“I DO NOT KNOW…” Those were the first words participants were asked to write on their own sheet of paper. “…which career path to choose.” And these words were how I decided to finish my sentence. I look up, and most participants are still writing eagerly. By the amount of people attending, I can see how the topic lives among students. After everyone has put down their pens, the instructor explains: “Behind the not knowing is either fear or indifference. Which one applies to your situation?” That’s easy, I think, as I write down “I’m afraid I’ll change my mind.”
Discussion
A discussion ensues. Many participants have written down a similar problem. Which master to pick? And what is my next best step to take? It is hard to figure out, and we are eager to learn how to distinguish the ‘right’ decision. An obvious approach would be to look up loads of information first. After all, it would seem unwise to make an uninformed decision. But at some point, we know the essentials, and every new detail adds to the insecurity. In turn, that insecurity could lead to procrastination, because what if an essential detail is missed? You seem to reach a wall.
Then what can be done? A good step would be to tune in with your feelings and look for the cause of your insecurity. Can something be done about it? Sometimes, that is not possible. Then the only way left is to take the plunge and see how it goes!
It sounds easier said than done, and not every participant seems convinced. Then the instructor ensures us: “In case you make the wrong decision, it is always possible to get back on track.” In that way, choices made in the past are always good choices, because they will have taught you something that was previously unknown to you. It helps you make better decisions in the future. During the workshop, words spoken by the author and former U.S. Navy SEAL William McRaven come to mind: “True leaders must learn from their failures, use these lessons to motivate themselves and not be afraid to try again or make the next tough decision.”
In the end, all choices are choices of feeling, and we try to improve them by using our wit. It is good to listen to advice from others, but it should be avoided to decide against your own drive and gut feeling.
Lesson learned
Doubt is an inevitable part of the decision-making process. When you are in the state of not knowing, there are two options: continue doubting or you can just do it! Dealing with dubiety and insecurity makes you open to dealing with whatever comes your way. If you already know everything that is to come and every decision is laid out in front of you, you might miss some other beautiful paths in life. Be open to chance.
Thank you, Mr. De Haes, for providing us with this interesting and valuable workshop!
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